Dear Lisbeth,
I am sure that you know, even now as a little sweet baby, that mommy has "shiny stuff" in her face. I have always liked body modifications, but people often ask me what will I say to you if you ask for it. I didn't really have to give it much thought, as the answers seem obvious to me.
If you ask to color your hair some crazy color, to have dreadlocks or a mohawk or extensions, I will certainly allow it. After all, hair grows back if you decide that you don't like it. I just ask that you let me help you, and don't try to do it on your own, to make sure that it is done properly and turns out well.
If you ask me for a body piercing or gauges, depending on your age, I will certainly consider it. Body piercing is expensive and uncomfortable, so you should definitely think it through before punching needles through your body. Maybe I would take you to get a piercing you wanted as a reward for academic excellence or something along those lines.
If you asked me for a tattoo, I would be much more hesitant in agreeing. Tattoos are very permanent, and while I don't know how things will be 15 or 20 years from now, as it is, there are a lot of ways that people still discriminate against those with tattoos, and I wouldn't want you to be held back in any way. Also, people's tastes change over time, and a tattoo you might love as a teenager, you might hate as an adult, so you must take at least a year or two to consider whether you really want a tattoo as much as you think you do. Additionally, once you tattoo a certain part of your body, you can't put any other tattoo there, so you must make extra sure that it's what you want.
The short answer is, I want you to be happy, to trust me, and to feel free to love and express yourself, but to do so with wisdom and reservation.
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